It seems to me as though they want success, but not bad enough to face the failures that often precede it. I understand that. I have been in situations where I have literally been unable to move or think due to the belief that whatever I did was certain to be a failure. I mean, I felt like 'What's the point?'
Failure can be a scary thing for sure. If we have some past history with people blaming us or punishing us in some way - sometimes as simple as disapproval, or withdrawal of affection and sometimes actual physical violence such as hitting or spanking.
Many of us needed to seek professional help, counseling, therapy etc to get over this paralyzing fear. Some people seem to be able to work it out by themselves or with the help of friends. But it's never easy.
Like any fear, the only way to ultimately conquer it is to walk right up to it, acknowledge it, face it and push through it. It can be traumatic, it can even be dangerous - that's why professional help is often advisable. Either way, you are the one that has to move through it.
My experience has been that it is ALWAYS better on the other side of the fear and that it is extremely rare that the expected consequences are as bad as we feared.
And success is not often achieved without a few rounds of failure first. You can take away the name, but that doesn't erase the fear. You can call it trying or almost there or good enough, but whatever you call 'not succeeding' it is generally a necessary component of 'getting it right' or being 100% successful in our endeavor.
That's why, in the game, we use the complementary terms Success and Failure. Because you can't really have one without the other. OK, sometimes you can, if you stick with the the easy stuff. But when you get outside of your comfort zone - which is where the great successes are found - you will fail often. And that's OK.
We have an app for that!
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